There was a man old and wise, who often gave good advice. He said “Have some cake and eat it too. But whatever it is that you do. Wear some loafers, or wear some boots, but don't wear flip flops with a suit.”
A gentle word instead of wrath. An insult taken but not given back. A friendly comment instead of truth. Tolerating those uncouth. Facing wrong but doing right. Still, sometimes it’s tiring, being nice.